Are You Ready To Live Happily In The Now?

 

January 2015

 

So as we come to the end of the first month of 2015, I wonder how everyone is feeling?  Has the euphoria of a new year now been extinguished or is it still shining brightly inside of you?

For many of you it may be back to normal – even new year resolutions, if you made any, may be starting to fizzle already.  For others it will hopefully continue for the rest of the year.

For me this new year has been a bit different from previous ones and I am really enjoying it.  I didn’t make a big song and dance about New Year’s Eve, yes I went out and saw in the new year, but to me it was just like welcoming in another day.

Another day filled with love, joy, happiness, faith and hope.

You see I learnt a great deal in 2014, a great deal about life in general but more importantly a great deal about myself.

I also learnt that living isn’t constantly looking to the future for happiness and joy.  Living a great life is being in the now and enjoying everything about the NOW.  Not always looking forward to what tomorrow or the next day brings.

I was always the one to say “When we retire we can do this……”  or “When we get the money we can do that…..”

But it occurred to me recently that I really may not be here tomorrow – so just get on with it today.

Last year I went on retreats that I wouldn’t normally have done, I saw  many live bands and live music, I travelled more than I would normally have done, sometimes on my own too.   I met new and wonderful friends, worked with some tremendous clients and had some great times with my family.

Obviously some days weren’t as good as others and there were times when my new found positivity and optimism were put to the test. But I came through and allowed myself a few hours of “ugh” time and then got right back on track.

And when it came to midnight on the 31 December 2014 I really didn’t want to say goodbye to 2014, I was quite happy for everything just to continue to flow in as it has been doing.

So no big deal for me this new year, no resolutions, no “Oh thank goodness this year will be better” etc etc.  Just a continuum of how I have been living my life for the last 12 months.

And what is that?

Well it is:

  • Enjoying waking up every morning.
  • Enjoying the day no matter what.
  • Being thankful for all of the things that I have in my life.
  • Trying to see the good in everyone (ok so this does need lots of practice and perseverance  and I haven’t quite got it nailed yet).
  • Enjoying getting out in the fresh air and nature.
  • Looking after my health and wellbeing.
  • Looking for and saying thanks for the beautiful things that are always around me.  No matter where we live or are, there is always something beautiful to see, we just have to look for it.  (Nature gives us all of these gifts but we are so busy with our lives that we hardly notice them at all).

Nowadays I try to notice as much as I can and smile and acknowledge what makes me happy.

 

January skies

 

Feelings

I used to be quite a pessimist in my early years.  I thought that I didn’t have much to smile about because life always seemed to be dealing me the hard cards.  But since I have been looking on the positive side of things joy, happiness and money are just flowing in.

I now know that your mind set has a lot to do with all of this and that we are like big magnets attracting in the same as how we are feeling and the things that we are saying.

If we are feeling negative we will bring in lots to make us unhappy and sad.

And if we are feeling positive then we will bring in lots to make us happy.

And note that I have underlined feeling, it isn’t just what you are thinking and saying it is how you feel inside that makes these things happen. 

You may say “I feel very happy today.”  But unless you are feeling “very happy”  or “happy” then it won’t work.

This is where it can be a little tricky especially if you know you need to feel happy but are actually feeling fed up or sad.

 

Feeling Happier

So how do you get to feel happy?

Well unless you are a real “misery guts” there will always be something to make you smile or lift your mood.  It could be:

  • Music – a certain artist of piece of music that makes you feel great and uplifted.
  • A favourite film.
  • Going the gym.
  • Running.
  • Getting out in the fresh air.
  • Walking.
  • Reading.
  • Taking a lovely scented and relaxing bath.
  • Gardening.
  • DIY.
  • Painting and drawing.
  • Looking through old photographs.
  • Thinking about one of your favourite places that you like to visit.  And even if you cannot physically get there you can imagine it and remember it and think of the good times that you have spent there.
  • Smile more and when you are out and about smile at strangers and say hello.  They will say back and not only will you be making yourself feel better but will also be making a difference to their live too.

You will have your own favourites.  Lift your mood by doing something to make you feel good and recognise how much better you feel inside.  How much lighter you feel, how much brighter everything seems.

 

 

Silhouette of a Young Woman Jumping with Excitement

 

Practice this as often as you can, at least once or twice a day and notice how much better and happier you begin to feel.   And over time notice how your life starts to change around you.  More things will come into your life to make you happy.

Things That We Say and Think

Also what we say and think can effect what is going on around us too.  For example if we feel angry, frustrated, cross and disappointed then we are putting out negative vibrations.  And if we again look at the magnet then we will be attracting in more things to make us feel angry, frustrated, cross and disappointed.

If we say or think something derogatory about someone, then we can expect the same back at us.

 

Keep silence

 

It is really a case of being aware of what we are thinking, saying and feeling at all times.  And if any of these are negative then we need to counter balance by thinking really good thoughts, saying nice things about someone and feeling good inside.

Gratitude for What You Already Have

Another important thing to remember and to put into practice is to start saying “thank you” for the things in your life that you already have.  And no matter how down we may be feeling there is always something to say thank you for.  Here are some examples:

  • The food that you eat
  • The water that you drink
  • The heating in the house
  • The warm clothes that you have
  • Your children
  • Your partner
  • Your friends
  • Your pets
  • Your good health

See how simple they are.  They can be more detailed but this is just a start; somewhere to begin.

 

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Try saying “thank you” for 5 or 6 things that you are grateful for in your life, say it every morning before you get up or whilst you are cleaning your teeth or taking your morning shower.

And then say “thank you” again just before you go to sleep for the things that you have experienced during the day.  Again these can be really simple, for e.g:

  • The parking space that you got at work
  • Meeting your friend for coffee
  • How well your children have behaved today
  • Meeting your deadline at work
  • The lovely walk that you went on
  • How beautiful the weather was today

You can be thankful for whatever you want to be thankful for.

It takes minutes few but will really make a difference to your life.

You may be saying “Oh here we go again – someone else spouting on about positive thinking – what a load of rubbish”, which is exactly what I used to think, but give it a go and see how much better you feel about things and life in general.

You can completely change your life around with positive thinking, positive feelings, positive words and gratitude. 

It does take practice and it also needs to become a habit for it to work consistently.   But just try these simple exercises for now to get you on the right track and keep doing them and then notice how your life starts to change, how happier you feel inside and how more good things come into your life to be happy about.

I really wish I had understood about all of this back in the 1990s and noughties.   How different life would have been for me and my family.

However it is never too late to start and by practicing happy thoughts, feelings and words then you will soon start to notice the difference.

 

If You Never Try You'll Never Know Concept

 

If you would like to find out more about this or if you would like to have a chat about it then just contact me and we can arrange a complimentary call to discuss it.