What a Powerful Tool Listening Is

Now that my life is where I want it to be and I am happy and content – it is difficult to remember how low and desperate I felt a few years ago, back in the late 1990s.Isobel in Stanley Park

But I did feel low and I remember it being a very dark time for me.

I was going through all sorts of turmoil at the time.

I was a single parent of 3 children, who were lovely don’t get me wrong, but quite demanding

I was in a job that I didn’t enjoy

I didn’t earn much at all so was always struggling to make ends meet

I had a Line Manager, who was bullying me and who ironically was the HR Director!

And I was in a difficult (to say the least!) relationship.

Life was crap!

I knew what I had to do to sort it out. I had to leave my job, but not before reporting my line manager for her appalling conduct.  And I had to leave my boyfriend, which at the time was hard for me to do.

I had friends and relatives giving me their advice and a sympathetic ear, but all I wanted was someone that I could just talk to, who would just LISTEN to me.

I didn’t need advice, I needed to be HEARD!

As I say I knew what had to be done, but I wanted to have the opportunity to get all of my feelings, my hurt, my despair, my inability to hold onto a relationship, my disappointment and my disgust and embarrassment that I was letting these things happen to me, out into the open.

I needed someone to talk to who would listen, who wouldn’t judge me and who wouldn’t be shocked about what I wanted to say.

Eventually I found that person, Patrick, my saviour, my angel – the person who listened and who helped me to turn my life around.

He sat and he LISTENED.

He didn’t get embarrassed when I cried, he didn’t judge me, he LET ME BE ME!

By listening to me and helping me to accept that actually….

“I am ok, I am a good person and I deserve to be loved.

But first of all I have to learn to love myself”

He helped me on the road to recovery and he gave me the strength to tackle the issues, gain my self confidence and develop my self esteem.

He, along with others very close to my heart, helped me to become the woman that I am today.

Allowing someone to speak unconditionally and be heard is one of the greatest and

most powerful gifts that we can give to anyone.



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