Working With Service Families

 

 

Having been a naval wife for many years I know the difficulties that service personnel and their families face on a regular basis.

We all know that service personnel are an unique breed, there is nothing quite like them. 

The have their own language, brilliant sense of humour (but not one that everyone appreciates) and they are faced with all sorts of situations on a regular basis that most people will never experience (thank goodness).

Even when life is difficult they are expected to serve their country and just get on with it.

Then there is the family. 

These individuals quite often get overlooked, but they are just as amazing as the servicemen. 

The wife – who keeps everything together when their husband is away.  She holds the fort and tries to keep everything as stable and as normal as possible.  Her job is equally as difficult and demanding. 

And life can be quite lonely and overwhelming at times.

The children – who have to cope with a forever changing situation.  Dad being at home, dad being away.  Moving homes, moving schools, having to make new friends on a regular basis.  Feeling unsettled.  Seeing mum unhappy.

I understand the loyalty that the family feel towards their husband and father but also how frustrating it can be when their life always seems to come last in the scheme of things.

It’s not always easy to find someone to talk to about it to either – most civvies don’t understand.

 I used to get:

“Well you married him – you knew what you were letting yourself in for”

Or the classic:

“You made your bed now lie in it!” 

 Great – that is not what you want to hear when you feel so down and fed up.

The truth of the matter is that if they haven’t lived the service life then they have no idea how difficult it can be. 

If you want someone to talk to, someone who understands the service life and at least some of the difficulties that you are facing, then please do not hesitate to contact me and we can get a free 20 minute call booked in. 

That 20 minutes may make you feel so much better about things